FindZLIB: fix ZLIB_USE_STATIC_LIBS on Windows

- on Windows, the ZLIB_USE_STATIC_LIBS options requires a reordering of
  the search names in order to prefer the static library, since in most
  cases both static and shared libraries are built
- add zlibwapi[d] library name for the contrib/vstudio builds
- add lib prefix and .dll.a suffix for the win32/Makefile.gcc build

Fixes #23140